Someone told me that I should rephrase my question that I asked in the last post. So, here I go. I shouldn’t be asking why it’s so hard to fall in love. For some people, that’s apparently easy. What I should be asking is: Why is it so hard to stay in love?
When you first fall in love with somebody the feelings are all new and fresh. Everything that person does is wonderful to you and every second you’re with them, it’s like magic. You want to call them up all the time just so you can talk to them and hear what they have to say. When you’re apart from that person, it’s like there’s a constant rain cloud hanging over you that will only go away when you see that person again. When you’re with that person, you always want to be in contact with them, whether it’s by holding hands, or by putting your arm around their shoulder or just holding them while they doze in your lap. You think that you could never be happier than in those moments when you see that other person smile. But, each time you see them, you feel happier than the last time. You’re willing to go to any lengths just to be near that person. Have I made my point?
So, what happens in a relationship that diminishes those feelings? If you feel so incredibly in love with another person, how is it that you can suddenly not care for them anymore? It’s a question that I’d really like answered, because it’s kept me up at night more often than I’d care to admit. How can you go from loving everything about a person to not wanting to be near them? When you’re in love, you tell everything to the other person. The thought of ever lying to them never even crosses your mind. Yet, when those feelings are gone, you find yourself telling those untruths more and more often. The more you do, the further apart you grow from that person.
How does it happen? Is it just a gradual diminishing of love, or does it just go away all at once? Honestly, I have no idea, so I’m really going to need some input here. Leave a comment with your thoughts.
