Here's Lookin' At You, Kid.

Are looks (good or bad) important in a relationship? Girls: Will you not go out with a guy if he doesn’t dress in the latest fashions? Guys: Will you not date a girl who dresses in unflattering clothing? I know that today’s society has forced a lot of people to only focus on how a person looks instead of how they act, but does everybody do that?

Guys: When you go to pick up a girl for a date and she comes dressed in, say, a hoodie and baggy jeans instead of something a little more flattering, does that change how you’re going to treat her on the date? Or, since this is an LDS dating blog, what if she shows up wearing clothes that are not quite as modest as you would have hoped? Will you think less of her? I would hope the answer would be no, but I know that it’s not going to be, at least, not unanimously. Girls: If a guy comes to pick you up for a date and he is wearing something that you don’t find fashionable, will that change your thoughts of him? What do you generally find acceptable in the way of men’s fashion? Must we wear only button down shirts and slacks when we are with you? Or can we dress in a way that is more comfortable for us?

This doesn’t have to apply to just what we wear. What about actual physical features? Are there lines you will draw as to who you will date that are defined by physical appearance? What parameters do you have in place to limit the amount of “uglies” you date? I know that physical attraction is an important factor in starting a relationship. You have to be attracted to somebody before you start asking them out. But, what features do people find unattractive in another person? I know it’s going to be different for each of us, but I’d still like to know. Or, we could look at this from the other side and ask what features will first attract you to the opposite sex? Is it her hair? Is it his eyes? Is it the way they smile? Please note that I’m asking both guys and girls here.

I’m going to get more into the non-physical features that attract us to each other in my next post, but for now I’d like to get some feedback from all of you about what you like the people you date to look like. Leave some comments and discuss.