Follow Me, Follow You

Yes, I know I already did a post today, but I ran across this and wanted to get everyone’s opinion on the matter.

http://laurabelle89.blogspot.com/2009/07/my-boy-boycott.html is one of the blogs that I follow; it belongs to a good friend of mine, Laura. In this particular post, Laura talks about the “Boy Boycott” that she is currently on. She’s had it with guys and is giving up dating for a while. To quote her: “Guys are dumb… or at least the majority of them are.” She explains the reason for the boycott thus: “I’m not certain I want to deal with all that goes along with dating.” She also goes on to talk about the stresses that this is causing. Guys just don’t seem to get the point that she doesn’t want to go out with them and continue to ask her out over and over. What does everybody think about that? It reminds me of a post I did a while ago about persistence being a virtue or not. If a girl tells you “No, I don’t want to go out with you” that should be it, right? You’ve gotten your answer. But, again, there’s the other side to look at. Can persistence be a good thing in the long run? You know, having that “never say never” attitude has helped people through history, but does it apply here? If a girl has made it clear that she absolutely doesn’t want to date you, or anybody else, should you keep trying?

According to the guys Laura mentions in her blog, a boycott is a dumb idea, but in my opinion, it’s a great idea. Sometimes a break from dating can be a good thing, it gives you a chance to spend some time on yourself and to reorganize your thoughts. So kudos to you, Laura, you stick to what you feel you should be doing and don’t let anyone make you feel different.

(Yes, I know this is kind of just a repeat of a previous post, but this time I have an actual example to use, so I’m using it.)

Persistence A Virtue?

Deal or no deal is my question for you today. If you ask a girl out (or a guy, for any female readers) and they say no, does that mean that you just give up on taking this person out? Do you automatically assume that there is no way that the girl will ever change her mind, or do you wait for a while and then ask again? They say that patience is a virtue, but is persistence? I personally would say that, if you really like this person, you should keep asking them. Look at rejection as a challenge, not a defeat. Who knows? The girl might be impressed by the fact that you don’t take no for an answer. Or, conversely, she might be annoyed. But you’ll never find out which, unless you try.

Now, you need to make sure that you don’t step over the line that divides persistence and stalking. Some people will get really annoyed and scared when someone won’t leave them alone. So, be persistent, but within reason. Don’t call the girl/guy every single day and ask them out or you might end up with a restraining order instead of a date, then it wouldn’t matter how persistent you were.

Anybody have any thoughts on how to be a persistent dater, but not a stalker?