Sing, Sing, Sing. I Like To Sing.

I hate it when inanimate objects try to tell me something. It’s pretty frustrating, but can be funny at the same time. Today’s is more on the funny side, with just a touch of coincidence thrown in to make me scratch my head in thought.

At my job I’m allowed to listen to my iPod, which I do every day because it makes the 8 hours I’m here bearable. I usually just set it to shuffle and listen to whatever comes up. Today is no exception. As I’m doing my daily paperwork I’ve got my earbuds in and I’m listening to some great music. Then, something strange happened. The song “Best of My Love” by the Eagles came up. I didn’t really feel like listening to a love song, so I skipped to the next track which happened to be “When You Love Someone” by Bryan Adams. Again, I skipped ahead to the next track. What should come up but, you guessed it, another love song. This time it was “I Love Her” by the Beatles. I was starting to get frustrated at this point and skipped ahead through 5 more songs, all of which were love songs which included “Love Me Do” also by the Beatles, “My Love” by Wings, “Why Can’t This Be Love” by Van Halen “Make You Feel My Love” by Garth Brooks, and finally “I Want To Be Loved” by Prozzak. The song that came up after those was “I Don’t Wanna Be in Love” by Good Charlotte. I stayed on that song, feeling that it summed up my feelings at the moment. After that song was done “Everything I Do, I Do For You” by Bryan Adams, came up, frustrating me even more.

It seems like my iPod is trying to tell me something, but what that is, I’m not sure. Could it be that I’m in love with someone and don’t know it? Or could it be that someone is in love with me and hasn’t told me? Or, is the point it’s trying to get across the fact that I don’t want to be in love? I have no idea. I just thought it was kind of funny. And strange.

Make Or Break Because Of Music?

After talking with a friend about my last post, I’d like to take the question that I posed last Friday about music even further. I’ve already talked about what might happen when you’re in a relationship and the girl doesn’t like the music you listen to. But my question for you today is: How do you get into a relationship with a girl when you don’t agree on something as simple as the music each other listens to? Usually, at least, in my opinion, you date people who have similar interests as you. Now, I know from experience that this is not always the norm. Some people can overlook the little differences that each other has and can make a relationship work with that person.

But what if, before you’re even in a relationship with someone, something as simple as music is already a problem? Do you automatically mark that person as someone who you could never seriously date? Or do you try to work out the problem? I would hope that, if you really like the girl you’re dating and really want to try a serious relationship with them, you’d try to work out the problem. Come to some kind of a compromise that would make both of you happy.

I guess my real problem with this (and the reason I’ve written two posts about it) is that, in my experience, most girls are not willing to compromise with a guy. Either the guy has to start listening to music that the girl approves of, or the girl is gone. But, isn’t that just a little bit controlling? I’m not saying that the girl has to start listening to music they don’t like, but can’t they just let us guys be ourselves and listen to music that we do like?

And just so everyone knows, music isn’t the only thing this can apply to. It could be anything: music, books, movies, etc.

So, what is everyone’s opinion on this? Am I blowing this way out of proportion? Or do I make a good point? Let me know.

The Music Of Love?

When it comes to music, I like to listen to music that I’m sure I wouldn’t feel comfortable playing around a nice, LDS girl if we were to go on a date. I like to listen to many different genres of music. I like heavy metal, techno, alternative and others that I’m not going to take the time to list. So, my question today is: When you’re in a relationship with a girl, and she doesn’t approve of the music you listen to, what do you do? Do you just stop listening to that kind of music all together? Or do you just not listen to it around the girl?

I’d hope that the girl wouldn’t want you to stop listening to the music because, honestly, the music I listen to is part of who I am and I’d really, really hope that the girl would like me despite what I choose to listen to. I know that language in music is a real sore spot for most LDS girls, which it should be, but if they were to just look past that at the rest of the song, I’m sure they’d like it. Yes, I remember that picture from The New Era of the cockroach in the ice cream, and I remember the message associated with it. But, sometimes you have to just eat around the cockroach and enjoy the rest of the meal.

Today, however, there are alternatives to eating around the cockroach. Most places that sell music now sell both the original, unedited version of the songs, as well as edited versions of the songs that cut out most, if not all, of the language. I usually try to buy the edited versions, but I’ll be the first to admit that my entire music library is not clean.

So, this brings me back to my original question? What do you do in a relationship when the girl doesn’t agree with what you’re listening to? How do those of you that are married or dating deal with the problem? Let me hear some of your feedback.